Do It On Purpose

• • Be dishonest. Withhold information, leave out details, or flat out lie. This confuses the other person and makes them insecure.

• • Backstab them. Make them think you care about them, but then talk about them behind their back.

• • Be unreliable. Make plans and then cancel them at the last minute.

• • Pass judgment on their decisions.

• • Deliberately do things to annoy them.

• • Don’t ever compliment them or acknowledge their successes – make them feel they’re not good enough.

Do It Accidentally

• • Let your destructive habits take control.

• • Act as if their feelings don’t matter as much as yours

• • Have double standards for them and for yourself.

• • Avoid communication and ignore their messages.

• • Compare them to others.